One of the most contentious subjects I deal with when working with high-conflict parents is phone communication with the children. Calls to the children should...
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The Simple Truths
I’ve been doing a lot of research lately to update my knowledge, as well as to enhance the required parenting classes we teach for the...
Accusing and Defending Don’t Work!
Many co-parents think that they must defend themselves against the accusing words of their ex. When I ask a parent why they feel they have...
Avoid Divorce Story-Telling with Your Kids
Elizabeth Loftus, a psychology and law professor at the University of Washington, has been researching the topic of memory since the 1970s. In talking about...
Court Order Discrepancies
Court orders for parenting plans often include vague concepts and confusing or contradictory information that can create conflict, even though they are designed to reduce...
Three Struggles with Two Homes
Kids with separated or divorced parents feel differently about their parents’ conflict than kids whose parents fight but stay together. For starters, kids of divorce...
Boundaries
It is said that some kids never grow up, yet the flip side of that is many grow up too soon. Those who live with...
Opinions
Opinions. They abound in co-parent relationships, but are often a huge cause of conflict. Although you have a right to share your opinions about your...
Focus on Feelings, not Just Facts
Answering children’s questions about what is happening with their parents’ separation or divorce can be tricky. “Where am I going to live after the divorce?”...
What Kids Don’t Know Can’t Hurt Them
Many co-parents underestimate the impact conflict has on their children. I have had kids tell me they think their parents would be happier if they...