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What Kids Don’t Know Can’t Hurt Them
Many co-parents underestimate the impact conflict has on their children. I have had kids tell me they think their parents would be happier if they (the children) didn’t exist. That makes sense when you think about it from a child’s point of view. All of the fighting seems to revolve around the fact that children…
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Beware of Coping Skills You are Teaching
Co-parents often fail to see that there are direct correlations between putting their children in the middle of the conflict and teaching them dysfunctional relationship skills. Here’s just one to think about: Asking a child to deliver a message to the other parent. Kids learn quickly that they are being asked to deliver a message…
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Treatment for Parental Alienation is Complicated
Most divorcing parents tend to alienate somewhat at a low level due to the high emotions involved in a divorce or custody dispute and because of the natural conflict that arises when two parents are separating. This is termed “naïve” alienation, which means they often are not aware they are engaging in harmful behavior and…
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One (Healthy) Parent Can Make a Difference
Thirty years ago, researchers were telling us that the top two factors that determined how kids fared after divorce were economics and parental conflict. Here we are into the less-stigmatized 2000s, and the top two reasons that surface in the research still today are economics and conflict. Why have we not gotten better at this?…
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REMEMBER: When two people are married to one another…
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DON’T FORGET: In business, for instance…
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REMEMBER: Respect is paramount to the business of co-parenting…
[cmsms_row data_padding_bottom=”50″ data_padding_top=”0″ data_overlay_opacity=”50″ data_color_overlay=”#000000″ data_bg_parallax_ratio=”0.5″ data_bg_size=”cover” data_bg_attachment=”scroll” data_bg_repeat=”no-repeat” data_bg_position=”top center” data_bg_color=”#ffffff” data_color=”default” data_padding_right=”3″ data_padding_left=”3″ data_width=”boxed”][cmsms_column data_width=”1/1″][cmsms_text animation_delay=”0″]REMEMBER: Respect is paramount to the business of co-parenting, even when you don’t respect your co-parent as a person. Both parents deserve (1) respect for authority in their own home; (2) respect of the court-ordered time with their…
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DON’T FORGET: Kids, especially young ones…
[cmsms_row data_padding_bottom=”50″ data_padding_top=”0″ data_overlay_opacity=”50″ data_color_overlay=”#000000″ data_bg_parallax_ratio=”0.5″ data_bg_size=”cover” data_bg_attachment=”scroll” data_bg_repeat=”no-repeat” data_bg_position=”top center” data_bg_color=”#ffffff” data_color=”default” data_padding_right=”3″ data_padding_left=”3″ data_width=”boxed”][cmsms_column data_width=”1/1″][cmsms_text animation_delay=”0″]DON’T FORGET: Kids, especially young ones, have a difficult time resolving the issue of missing at least one of their divorced parents all of the time. When with Dad, they miss Mom. When with Mom, they miss Dad.…
